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Wrong to grieve more for the loss of a pet than the loss of a person2007-11-25 2:57:05

I recently lost my little sister in an apartment fire which was devastating. Now I am having to deal with the prospect of putting down my dog, who I believe is my soul mate. He has been with me through the worst times of my life and a source of my strength as well as my shoulder to lean on. I picture him looking up at me with so much love and then watching them close for the last time and I cry uncontrollably. I believe this will be the hardest thing I will ever have to do. Is it wrong to feel like I will grieve more for him than I do for my sister? Or is it just a different kind of grief? I don' t want to think I am some kind of bad person for doing so. But I don't think I can help it.

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I am so sorry for your losses.

No, there's nothing wrong, and yes, it's a different kind of grief. Your dog depends on you, and provided you loyalty and devotion despite your shortcomings, so it's understandable that you'd mourn.

You're not a bad person.

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you are not a bad person dont add guilt to your grief you have to much on your plate as it is.just be strong your doing the right thing putting your dog not fair to have him suffer but your feelings are normal...take care

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Don't beat yourself up too much about this. This is a different kind of grief, but have you thought that maybe with the loss of your sister, the loss of your dog is just building grief upon grief and it seems greater? You're not a bad person. This isn't up for a vote, either. You're the only one who can judge, so go easy on yourself. You've had enough sadness already.

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It is okay to grieve more for your pet anyone who thinks it is terrible has no empathy for you especially since it was your soulmate.

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Never worry about natural feelings of grief. We all show different emotions. Your outward display of sadness for your sister vs. your pet are not to be compared. You are obviously a loving and caring person.

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the grief from your loss of your sister will be raw for a while and any loss you suffer whether pet or human will bring those feelings to the surface you are not just crying for your dog, but for your sister too. although you may not realise it, i am dealing with sick pet at moment, may need to be put to sleep, so i sympathise with you.

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It is definitely not wrong.