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my sons goldfish is dead2007-11-24 23:39:29

should i tell him or just replace it and hope he doesnt notice

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Unless he is under 4, tell him it died, and you take him to choose a new one. Kids have to know that things don't live for ever (only people do - in one place or the other!).

The point is: if you want him to trust you and what you say for the rest of his life, you have to start now being trustworthy. Never lie to your kids - in any form. Kids want to count on you for their stability in life. It matters!

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Depends on how old your son is and how attatched he was. My son had a fish when he was 4 and it died and he was ok with the whole process and we got a new one.

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what's the harm in replacing it? The only thing that made me sad as a child, when my fish died, was if my mother didn't buy me a new one.

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It depends. Are you ready to have the discussion about when and how things die? Is he old enough yet to understand? I think we should learn about life and death, and not to lie to children, but if he's extremely young and/or you don't think he's ready to handle the discussion, then I'd buy a fish and wait till the right time.

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How old is your son? And how attached was he to the goldfish?No matter how old he is, though, he might see the difference, and be upset that you'd try to trick him. Treat this as a life lesson for him. Break it to him gently, and let him know that everyone dies, but goldfish live much shorter lives than people, so we need to expect that they won't live as long, no matter how attached we are to them.

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Tell him. It is one of life's lesson he must learn. Then go buy another fish together

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tell him and offer to replace it..

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Depends on age of your son. If he is a little guy, then replace it.

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Depends how old he is and how well you think he would handle it. My husband got our daughter a gold fish at a carnival when she was 3 and it died four days later. We actually had a little funeral for it, and burried it in the back yard. We used to opportunity to tell her that the fish's spirit was in heaven with God. She has always remembered that, and a year later, when one of my good friends died, she said to me, "It's ok Mommy, his spirit is in heaven with God, like my fish!" It was so sweet!